Droning on about giving kids a voice!

When a situation bugs me I will chew and chew on it until the whole thing makes sense. I know that this normally indicates a certain level of ADD or what ever other acronyms people are using now to put unconventional kids and people into tiny little boxes.

Which by the way kinda pees on my electrical socket!

Why must we all fit into some pre-conceived box as determined by educators and other control-freaky people? It might make it EASIER for the educators if they have nice, well-behaved little drones in their classrooms, but it does NOT bode well for our future if there is no outside the box thinking spurred on by a creative spirit. I can’t think of anything scarier than grownups unable to think for themselves.

Oh no wait! I have that at work at the moment – people sitting around waiting for somebody to tell them what to do next.

Oh and don’t get me started on people who want to create the perfect image of themselves! They are constantly trying to CLONE their kids and then act all surprised and injured when the kid implodes spectacularly and leaves a black hole behind.

These parents freak me out because this insane urge to bring forth little carbon copies fashioned into their own image is pure narcissism – plain and simple!!

My private pet hate is when parents treat their kids as something that should be seen and NOT heard. Are you kidding me? Are they not allowed to have an opinion? In other words – they are NOT important enough to exist outside the realm that the parents create for them. Yoh! Talk about forcing them into a box and not allowing them to grow into individuals.

As an analyst it is not politically correct for me to say the following – but stuff that! This is my blog and I can say what I want to without some parent screaming for my blood.

Having a kid does NOT turn you into a parent!

A parent is somebody who nurtures the true nature of a child and guides them through the journey called life until they develop into all they can be.

Sometimes the best intentions are not always the right path to follow

Forcing a child to become something that they don’t want to become or are incapable of ever being is like opening your pool to crocodiles and swimming between them. You might not know when they are going to bite – but bite you they will!

That’s to say that you don’t browbeat them into total submission and is perfectly satisfied with a pale specter existing but not living.

And don’t get me started on Parents who expect kids to parent themselves.

They go and give too much freedom, don’t monitor, don’t guide, don’t mentor and don’t care enough to give their kids life-skills to help them through life.

So… I’m back to making my statement of having a kid does not turn you into a parent!

  • You go to school to gain knowledge
  • Then you go to a tertiary institution to gain knowledge in the field of your interest.
  • Then you are employed and are trained by the company to do your job.
  • As the job changes – you get more training.
  • As you develop within the job – you go for additional tertiary training to grow within your job..

Why then do you NOT do the same when you become a parent?

And don’t tell me that instinct will guide you….

Some people have seriously BAD instincts. They go on the experience they gained while growing up and so they perpetuate bad parenting skills.

How wonderful for those parents who had the benefit of an amazing upbringing and are now using that to shape their own kids.

But not everybody has been this lucky!

Even if they don’t want to bring up their children the way they were, some of them start over-compensating and that is when you end up with an unruly kid who is treated like an adult without having the emotional maturity to cope with the responsibility of shaping his or her own future.

This rant is not aimed at parenting skills, but at allowing kids to have a voice and become individuals. There are MANY ways to achieve that goal.

There should be a compulsory course every single person must do BEFORE they have kids.

Stay there until you behave like parents!

We should all be sterilized at birth and only be given the right to procreate when we are mentally ready to bring a child into this world and take them to adulthood. 

Quite frankly – it is only those that are mentally mature that will not feel threatened by somebody questioning their decisions or are able to listen to alternatives.  In other words – those NOT drunk on power and able to GROW!

…….and then the mosquito bit me and I woke up from my perfect dream.



About Lyndatjie

A 50 year old Techno Junky from Cape Town - South Africa. Shares her home with 2 teenagers and other animals.
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6 Responses to Droning on about giving kids a voice!

  1. cindy says:

    Righty ho, now would you like a cup of tea?

  2. Sven says:

    Saying that you are absolutely correct does not cut the mustard.

  3. adeeyoyo says:

    This is an excellent post, Lyndatjie and well thought out! I have no idea what the newish subject at schools called “Life Skills” consists of, but it should include all the things you have mentioned here. I have often read that parenting is THE most important job in the world and is the one job that is usually done UNTRAINED! And things are worse now that children are becoming mothers and fathers!!! What is happening to the human race?

  4. buttercup600 says:

    Tell Cin I’ll come for a cuppa too….loved it…so so true!!

  5. Madmom says:

    My kids are so diverse in their opinions and beliefs one would wonder if they came from the same family. I’ve never liked putting kids into ‘boxes’ and have only insisted that they exercise good manners and respect at all times. So far, so good.

  6. people get no help on how to grow to let the children grow along with them, leading by example and allowin the children to evaluate stuff for themselves.

    i was lucky – my dad was pretty good at that, a great influence on me

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